As we continue into the holiday season, it’s important to remember that we should not only love each other and be grateful for all that we have, BUT we also need to love and be grateful for ourselves. This does not mean buying for ourselves or being selfish, on the contrary it means being true to ourselves.
When I started jiu-jitsu l was told I needed to change my appearance, my attitude, my personality, and some other things in order to attract sponsors and make it in this sport. This was the worst advice ever. My advice: be yourself, and let everyone else love you for who you are. Most importantly, love yourself and be grateful for who you are. We each have something different to offer, and the sooner we recognize this, the better off we will be.
There are many components to this:
Recognize Your Worth
we are all different. Each one of us has our own strengths and faults. We look at the world, our sport, and our families differently. Life is not a matter of others recognizing you, but of you seeing what unique abilities and talents you have to offer. Train or whatever fits you, your goals, and your specific nature.
Recognize Your Individuality
What is it that makes you, you? From your thoughts, to your dress, to the way you train and how you communicate with others. I am not the one in our gym who goes out of my way to greet or welcome new people. I am not comfortable in that role. By nature, I am shy (and slightly awkward…okay really awkward) until I get to know you, then I am really outgoing. Many times, I was told I was rude or snobby, but I have found my own way to be friendly.
Embrace Your Strengths and Weaknesses
If bounding up to people saying “Hi” is not one of your strengths, but welcoming them with help instead, that‘s ok. Do what works for you and complements your nature. If you only want practice BJJ as a hobby, and train 3 days a week, because being a great Dad or Mom or something else is more important, go for it. If you want to give up everything in life — scholarships and all — to be a professional athlete, do it. Just make sure that whatever your goal is, whatever your strength is, you put all your effort into being your best at it. You get what you put in.
Don’t become discouraged. Remember that every failure is one step closer to success, as long are you pick yourself up and keep going. You have to fail to succeed, because if you aren’t then you’re not pushing yourself enough. The strength it takes to fail and pick up the pieces and move forward is the backbone of success.
Keep Working Hard
Focus on developing the attributes that are important to you and help you accomplish your goals. Once you know who you are, what you want in life and how you want to get there, then WORK is the next step. Goals do not come by wishing. It takes hard work and sacrifice to get to your desired place. You may have to give up some of the fun things to support that version of YOURSELF!
Love Yourself For Who You Are
The path you take will be filled with successes and failures, triumph and sorrow, and so much more. No matter what happens on your journey, remember this: you are awesome and you can!
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